What Breed of Dog Are You?… And Other Very Important Questions

0 Posted by - January 17, 2013 - Reviews, Sweepstakes

Ok, guys. I realize navel-gazing and introspection are not the usual fare on this blog. If you came only to see me screw up a pin, come back tomorrow. I’ll do it again then. But for today, I wanted to chat with you about personality types.

I’ve always been fascinated by personality typing. Part of that, probably, is that I’m a writer. My first love is fiction writing, and fiction writers are always looking for great ways to encapsulate personality so that we can write about it better. Some writers use horoscopes. Some use Myers-Briggs. I like enneagrams.

But even before I identified as a writer, I always flipped to the quizzes in glossy magazines first. You know the ones… What kind of summer lovin’ do you like best? and Who’s your ideal college guy? with silly answers that supposedly match with your personality, based on your responses.

Why do I do that stuff? Well, part of the answer is in my Myers-Briggs profile. I’m an INFJ, and that makes me “highly complex, often puzzling even to [myself].” (from Wikipedia) So in order to figure myself out, I take all these quizzes about what breed of dog I would be (Spaniel) or what Hogwarts house I’d be in (Hufflepuff).

Personality typing can also help in relationships. For example, I know my husband is an ENTJ, so I probably shouldn’t ask him how something makes him feel. It’s just not his strong suit to answer that sort of thing. And in professional relationships, I know my DiSC profile is Perfectionist (yes, it’s a cruel joke that I am so terrible at Pinterest pins), so I can work harder on trying to be charming (since that is usually my lowest priority… but you guys probably already figured that one out) and try to dial back my detail-focus and analysis a little bit, at least right at first so I don’t scare people away.

This is my judgy Perfectionist-face. To be fair, I am usually judging myself.

This is my judgy Perfectionist-face. To be fair, I am usually judging myself.

In case you want to test this out for yourself, there’s a book (Archetypes: Who Are You?) currently available and a related website, ArchetypeMe.com where you can take a quiz to figure out your archetype. Once you do that, you get a sort-of Pinterest-style dashboard filled with stuff targeted for your archetype. It’s pretty nifty.

I’ll tell you what my archetype is in a follow-up post soon…

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  • Katherine January 17, 2013 - 9:10 am Reply

    I think it’s important to know who you really are because then you can manage your weaknesses and play on your strengths.

  • Lindsay V. January 17, 2013 - 9:14 am Reply

    I’m an ENFP, but sometimes I wish I was a minimalist/perfectionist. My apartment would be a whole lot cleaner.

    • Jasi Lee January 17, 2013 - 10:15 am Reply

      until you love someone who is a pack rat or have children or pets. fml

    • Pintester January 17, 2013 - 11:09 am Reply

      Sometimes we perfectionists have the opposite type of cleaning habits because we’re waiting to do it RIGHT, and if we can’t do it RIGHT, it just doesn’t get done at all, and things get gross and nasty… Not that I’m saying I ever do that… *innocent whistles*

  • Lisa Palumbo January 17, 2013 - 9:24 am Reply

    I believe that if you know who you really are it can help you to make yourself a better person

  • Chocolatechic January 17, 2013 - 9:25 am Reply

    It is important to know who you are so that not only can you channel your weaknesses into strengths, but to also understand others.

  • rfoust January 17, 2013 - 9:26 am Reply

    It’s important to know what type I am so that I know why my manager said “Try not to be so….direct.” lol

  • Kasie Strickland January 17, 2013 - 9:27 am Reply

    I came out as 52% “Caregiver,” but I think the questions were skewed a little. On the “Your biggest fear is…” question, my answer was (of course) “spiders.” But I had to settle for “not being loved” or some crap like that.

  • Joanne January 17, 2013 - 9:43 am Reply

    I can’t do the quiz. I answer the first question and then nothing happens.

  • tyntiff2012 January 17, 2013 - 9:48 am Reply

    I went through a divorce this past year because I didn’t know who I was anymore, I couldn’t breath and felt I was drowning everyday. I needed to walk away and get back to ME and see who I was again. Almost a year later I am realizing I am not who I thought I was at all! Damn it I am fun! I love being carefree and not tied to anything! I always thought I needed structure, but I don’t. I thought I would fall apart with out my husband ‘telling’ me every move to make BUT HOLY SHIT I AM STILL PUT TOGETHER!!! So its very important to know who you are, cuz if you don’t you just become someone elses door mat. I have picked myself up, dusted myself off and got good and drunk a few times and had a blast!

  • Alexa Shelton January 17, 2013 - 9:49 am Reply

    I love to find out a little bit more about myself and see how that plays into my relationships with others. I came out strongest in intellectual, caregiver and creative.

  • Regina January 17, 2013 - 9:53 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so that when other people point it out to you, you’re not caught off guard. Embrace the lunacy.

  • Miranda Long January 17, 2013 - 9:53 am Reply

    42% Caregiver here but honestly I already knew that. Didn’t really need a quiz to give me that information. But I got a kick out of the 12% Queen. Shame it didn’t tell me what the ‘other’ seven archtypes are. What if they were the ones holding me back and I didn’t know it because the results didn’t list them. Panic Attack!!!

  • Nick Tallent January 17, 2013 - 9:59 am Reply

    I think it is pretty important to know who you are, but I think it’s very hard to find out. I think a lot of people put on a mask with others, trying to become who they think they should be or what other people want them to be. I know that I tend to do this, and I think a lot of people do, and probably don’t even realize it. It wasn’t until I started blogging every day and putting myself out there that I finally realized that I wasn’t who I thought I was and I started becoming more comfortable with who I actually am. Do I show my true self to everyone? No. But it is definitely important to know who I am so that I can be real to those who I really care about. Hopefully, that makes sense…reading it back, it’s kinda deep and convoluted, but you know, whatev.

  • Rebecca Rogge January 17, 2013 - 10:00 am Reply

    I too am an INFJ! I love doing all of these type indicator tests! Have you done Strengths Finder? That one is fun and it gives you the top 5 things (out of 32 total) you are best at so you can work towards them. The perfectionist in me wants to know what #32 is…sigh.

    • Pintester January 17, 2013 - 11:10 am Reply

      Well fuck, that sounds right up my alley. 😉 I’m gonna go find it now…

  • answertheunasked.blogspot.com January 17, 2013 - 10:05 am Reply

    I think it’s important to know what you value in yourself. I’m an INTJ and I value my sense of humor – it helps in all personal and professional situations! You can control, change, support and discourage a lot with humor.

  • Stephanie Jones January 17, 2013 - 10:11 am Reply

    The better I know myself the less frustrated I am trying to do things in a way not suited to my style.

  • Jasi Lee January 17, 2013 - 10:14 am Reply

    Okay, so as a bookish teen I was obsessed with horoscopes and typing, too. Then I stumbled upon The Secret Language of Birthdays. I picked out my family, my friends. Such elaborate readings! I then leaf to mine- shortest frickin’ entry ever! I share a birthday with Eartha Kitt and Douglass MacArthur? The only advice they could give me was “Blending in is requisite for survival”. Those words resonate today as I continue to read personality typing on the sly, trying to pass for a normal human being.. LOL

  • Erica Voss January 17, 2013 - 10:19 am Reply

    Apparently, I am everything. Just call me God. Or Mutt.

  • Emily R. January 17, 2013 - 10:23 am Reply

    I think it’s important to know who you are because many people spend (waste) a lot of time trying to answer that question, typically to no avail. I’m not sure the answer is easily findable, to be honest, but I get tired of searching sometimes and wish there were a quicker solution out there!

  • Rebekah C January 17, 2013 - 10:23 am Reply

    All I know is that my cat name is General Furry McMittens.

  • Emma January 17, 2013 - 10:48 am Reply

    If there is a personality quiz I can take, I’ll take it. I just want to make sure they all line up with who I THINK I am! I took two quizzes this morning based on your post!

  • Di January 17, 2013 - 10:48 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are, so you can focus how you interact with others and it makes it easier to figure out your part in most every situation and how best to solve problems.

  • EmmaBeEmma January 17, 2013 - 10:56 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so that when the barista calls out names you don’t end up with someone’s crappy iced passion tea lemonade apple juice. Or worse, a shitty cranberry non-fat muffin. Irish Cream Lattes for life!!!

    • Llama spit January 17, 2013 - 1:24 pm Reply

      But why give them your name, when you can give them something totally ridiculous to have to call out? Personally, I prefer to give them a little bright spot in their day. Calling out, “Fluffy Manmeat” would make anyone smile.

      • EmmaBeEmma January 17, 2013 - 2:06 pm Reply

        I think I love you.

      • Craig Thom January 17, 2013 - 5:29 pm Reply

        I didn’t come up with the idea, but when I go to restaurants I give the name “Donner”, so they’ll say “Donner, party of four”.

  • Ethne @ www.wom-mom.com January 17, 2013 - 11:02 am Reply

    Without having taken said quizzes yet, I’d say it’s important to know who you are so you can try not to turn your kids in mini-weirdos just like you. I say it with all the love and respect to all Pintestes out there but hey, I’ve read your comments, yo.

    • Craig Thom January 17, 2013 - 5:28 pm Reply

      You say that, but every time I visit my brother I try to make sure my nieces get some of my weirdness. It’s OK if they want to be normal people, but I want them to see that there are alternatives.

  • Rachel January 17, 2013 - 11:14 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so you understand why you do things. Particularly things that might not be good for you. If you don’t understand your motivation you’re kind of walking through life blindly at the will of your whims.

  • Carrie May January 17, 2013 - 11:28 am Reply

    I’m an analytical caregiver. Take that society! Interesting … thanks for posting!

  • Valerie Minnich January 17, 2013 - 11:28 am Reply

    Knowing who I am helps me relate to other people… & helps me not go crazy not understanding why they can’t relate to me!

  • Margaret January 17, 2013 - 11:56 am Reply

    Oho! Fellow INFJs! Taking those tests and reading possibilities for myself is like putting things in my planner/calendar or organizing my notes for school [or reading for class at all]. It’s much easier to go about my life when I know what’s up, what’s ahead and can plan for problems. So these tests remind me that I have a tendency to take everything personally even when it’s not meant to be so, and thus I can correct for that and so on. The allow me to process my own reactions and thoughts and manage what I do, say and think.

  • Breanna Mulder January 17, 2013 - 12:02 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so your life can make sense!! It’s so hard to wander around having to figure out who you are or justifying decisions. Once you know who you are, you can blossom and live life to the fullest!

    • Natalie January 18, 2013 - 9:05 am Reply

      Those who wander are not lost!

  • Jodee Rose January 17, 2013 - 12:11 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you really are so you don’t accidentally get in a car with someone who isn’t yourself.

  • Kathleen January 17, 2013 - 12:13 pm Reply

    I think its important to know who you are so you can play on your strengths and work on your weaknesses. I also think it’s hard to get to know yourself. I wear a mask of what I think people want me to be, less confidant that my true self is worthy or acceptable.

  • mndhild January 17, 2013 - 12:33 pm Reply

    I think it is important to know who you are so you can figure out what you want in life. I do think, though, that who you are can constantly change. For example, I recently had a son and who I was before I was pregnant and who I am now are slightly different. With that said, knowing who I was helped me identify what weaknesses I would have as a mother. This allowed me to change somethings to help me be the best mother I could be. Another aspect of this is knowing what type of person you are before you become a couple. This way, you know what you want. You can better pick a mate that will both compliment and challenge you, but in a good way. As I said before, it is a changing thing. I once read that if you don’t like a food you should try it again in seven years because your pallet changes. With that logic, if you take a test to try to identify yourself, maybe try it again in seven years or so to see if you are the same person you were. Knowing who we are will allow us to be able to better plan and set goals for our future.

  • Deana January 17, 2013 - 12:38 pm Reply

    I’ve always been fascinated by personality typing too – I just assumed it was my own narcissism :) On the other hand, perhaps it helps you get over yourself a little bit and realize that every personality type is valid – not everyone thinks like you do and not everyone should.

  • Heidi Thomas Britt January 17, 2013 - 12:44 pm Reply

    Q: Why do you think it’s important to really know who you are?
    A: So no one becomes you first. That would just suck to finally know who you are, only to discover someone else is already you. Or something.

  • allyhermy January 17, 2013 - 12:45 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to “know who you are” so you don’t let those constraints limit yourself. You can recognize who you are, what your strengths are, etc, but you don’t have to abide by those “rules” – you can create what kind of person you want to be in the world.

  • Brittany Lynne Borden January 17, 2013 - 12:46 pm Reply

    So, I’m a counseling psychology major finishing up my last semester of college moving on to my masters. Yeah, I just had to take this so I could analyze the validity of this test and the structure of it. Does that make me sound like a pompous nerd? Probably. I apologize for that.

    I ended up with 36% intellectual, 33% caregiver, and 11% visionary. Which kind of makes me sound like a know-it all nurse who can see the future. Someone *needs* to make that into a television show!

    And it’s important for you to know how you really are so you can have confidence in it when you’re a crazy old lady taking off her wig and wandering down the street believing that you’re Mary, Queen of Scots. You may *believe* you’re Mary, Queen of Scots but deep down inside you know you’re one bad ass granny. And no one can take that away from you.

  • Kasey Sheets January 17, 2013 - 12:55 pm Reply

    It is important to know who you are so that first and foremost you do not get yourself confused with someone else. I know that I am 5 parts pain in the ass to my magnificent husband, 3 parts overly caring, 1 part kick your ass if you mess with someone I love, 1 part ocd clean freak , and finally 1 part crazy! Otherwise I do know that there is more about “ME” that I should know and I should probably find out what that is so I don’t have to cry and binge on sweets as much!

  • NW Girl January 17, 2013 - 1:05 pm Reply

    Trying to find out who we really are is important because it not only makes us feel validated, but it helps us relate to others, and understand that just because we think one way doesn’t mean that kind of thinking works for everyone. I used to work for an insurance company, and they made all of us take this “True Colors” test. There are four colors, and you get a main color, and then the other colors are listed from most dominant to least. Then they told you which colors you get along with, and how to relate to each other color. The point is really to improve communication with different types of people. Also, almost EVERYONE at that company was one color (yellow). There were a few weirdos, including me. It turns out my color (blue) was not well suited for insurance claims.

  • Jenny January 17, 2013 - 1:18 pm Reply

    For me it’s not so much a search for myself as it is figuring out what to work on next.

  • Emily January 17, 2013 - 1:19 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to know your personality type so you can foster your strengths and improve your weaknesses!

  • Llama spit January 17, 2013 - 1:29 pm Reply

    I’m 32% Creative, 31% Intellectual, and 17% Advocate. Oh, helloooooo. First thing to pop up on my page? Two hot guys running. The only interesting thing on the page, actually. But really, who would even be remotely interested in a trash collage of Honey boo boo? It’s redundant.

    • Llama spit January 18, 2013 - 12:21 pm Reply

      Also, I just tweeted. https://twitter.com/MysterySquirrl Incidentally, anyone else think that saying that you tweeted makes it sound like you just let out a high pitched fart?

  • Lyndsay Wilshaw January 17, 2013 - 1:29 pm Reply

    I don’t care about the sweetstakes stuff, but I LOVE that you are into the Myers-Briggs scale! I’m an INFP and literally my life goal is to find out who I am and what I can do to help as many people as possible. I’m one of those people you see who get extremely passionate about things, and unfortunately for me that means I won’t accept a “mate” until I know that they are my “soulmate” and “the one”, otherwise I just get bored and will move on. You should read “Please Understand Me” by Keirsey and Bates (I’ve only read the second one). I knew I was attracted to your blog for a reason!

  • Kate B January 17, 2013 - 1:37 pm Reply

    Knowledge is power, but the only thing you really have power over is yourself. So self-knowledge is self-power, the best kind of knowledge and power! But I’m also a serious navel-gazer, so I might be biased…

  • Aimee January 17, 2013 - 1:45 pm Reply

    Knowing more about yourself helps in every kind of relationship with others. Knowing what you actually want and how to ask for it will make your interactions much better.

  • Kyndell Swain January 17, 2013 - 1:50 pm Reply

    62% Caregiver but I knew that 😛 Being a SAHM of 2 wonderful boys, its what anyone would pin point me as!

  • JessiG January 17, 2013 - 1:57 pm Reply

    I think it’s hard to know how others see you (unless you have truly honest friends, and whonreally wants those?) so these tests are a way to check in with what you are projecting to the world. I’ve always thought I was an introvert but a recent m-b has me WAY on the extrovert scale.

  • ChickieD January 17, 2013 - 2:03 pm Reply

    True story: when I was in college, one of my friends introduced our whole circle to the Myers-Briggs test stuff. He had us all read a book about it. We all embraced it and defined ourselves by it (ENTP btw). Several years later, I volunteered at a listening hotline and became friends with the trainer. It turned out it was her stepmother’s book that we had all been so gaga about. It also turned out that the stepmom was really into judging everybody based on their types, even though she was always cautioning in her book not to do it and the whole point of understanding types was to be all non-judgy. So, I guess i’m kind of over all that now :-( . But hope you get a lot of responses here because I love your blog.

  • Molly January 17, 2013 - 2:33 pm Reply

    You’re an introvert? I don’t believe that shit for one minute! Maybe Myers-Briggs doesn’t test for your internet personality- they ought to look into that.

    To answer your question- I find the personality type info interesting so I have an idea of where I am most likely to screw up. I am an INTJ, so I know I’m going to have to work extra hard to not make a fool of myself when doing presentations or schmoozing with people I don’t know. I also am aware that I HATE talking about feelings, and while that doesn’t make fights with my husband any easier, at least I know why he’s so irritated with me!

  • aboltfromthepink January 17, 2013 - 2:42 pm Reply

    Selfishly, I believe you should know who you are so that you know what you need to be at peace.

    Do any of you watch primetime tv drama? Basically, the girl thinks she needs to be with some guy in order to be happy and fulfilled, but what she REALLY needs is some self-esteem which will eventually help her realize that this guy is just filling her need to be validated temporarily. Until she understands herself–her emotions, insecurities, desires, ability–she will keep trying to use other things (like Some Guy) to make her happy, and she will keep failing.

    I actually wrote about the importance of knowing yourself in my latest (and only) blog post. I will definitely promote the sweepstakes in my next entry!

  • Amanda January 17, 2013 - 2:49 pm Reply

    I got 35% Caregiver, 26% Fashionista, 19% Intellectual, and 20% “Others”. And I’m an ISFJ :)

  • Lisa Brown January 17, 2013 - 3:16 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so you can achieve what you want in life and to make yourself happy. Also, if you know yourself, others can know the real you, too, and relationships, of all kinds, are better.
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  • Lisa Brown January 17, 2013 - 3:18 pm Reply

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  • Chelle Crew January 17, 2013 - 3:19 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to know who you are because you can focus on things that make you happy, and not what makes others happy. In the end your happiness should make others happy, cause I know when I’m not happy I make everyone else around me miserable. Channeling what you know about yourself and making those changes will make your life less stressful.

  • Joy Lu Vasquez January 17, 2013 - 3:22 pm Reply

    29% creative
    28% intellectual
    23% caregiver
    20% Other
    I guess I’m just a well balanced person!

  • Jenelle W. January 17, 2013 - 3:27 pm Reply

    It’s important to know yourself so you have less chance of screwing up your children in the same ways you are…Good luck with that kids!

  • Mary January 17, 2013 - 4:13 pm Reply

    Ooh, I love personality quizzes. My former fiance and I took the Meyers-Briggs and I came out as ISFJ to his INTP. Since famous INTPs include Einstein he decided he must be the genius of the relationship. Since ISFJ come with good organizational skills, he decreed that he was the genius and I could manage all the behind the scenes things, like an assistant! Please note I said former fiance.

  • Diane January 17, 2013 - 4:38 pm Reply

    Because you have to know how you’ll react to other peoples actions… people suck, so you have to know either how to help them suck less, or what sort of people you should just run away from since you might end up strangling them.

  • kidAmy January 17, 2013 - 4:58 pm Reply

    It is important to know who you are, and I know that I am a Canadian, and cannot play. *watches neighbours over the fence*

  • Kelley Linebaugh January 17, 2013 - 5:27 pm Reply

    For me it’s important to know who I am because I have one of those personalities that not everyone “gets” so it’s easier not to get my feelings hurt when I recognize that a) I’m a bit too much for people and that’s okay and b) the people who don’t get me mostly suck.

  • Kelley Linebaugh January 17, 2013 - 5:29 pm Reply
  • Craig Thom January 17, 2013 - 5:35 pm Reply

    Why do I think it’s important to really know who I am?

    So I’ll know which toothbrush to use.

    • Tiffany January 18, 2013 - 10:34 am Reply

      I wish these comments were like facebook, so I could “like” this one! Deep wisdom my friend, very deep.

  • LaurenO January 17, 2013 - 5:57 pm Reply
  • LaurenO January 17, 2013 - 6:01 pm Reply

    At the end of the day all you ever have is yourself and if you don’t know yourself, you truly have nothing. Wow, that was depressing, self.

  • Stephanie January 17, 2013 - 6:04 pm Reply

    I think that its important to know who you are so that you can know your strengths and weaknesses. I like that with the myers briggs Personality Typing, because it lists strengths you have that you can draw on and weaknesses that you may not have noticed, that you need to work on!

  • Daniel January 17, 2013 - 6:06 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you are because that way you can be able to know if you mesh with other people. Its not always exact, but sometimes it does help.

  • Kari Hemba January 17, 2013 - 6:08 pm Reply

    I came out as 54% Caregiver. Was it just me, or were there a lot of answers about exercising-just another reminder of something I ‘should’ be doing…(groan!). As far as your question–I think it’s important to know who you are, so you don’t lose sight of yourself. It’s real easy to become “Mom” or “Wife”, but you lose who “YOU” are!

  • Singingferret January 17, 2013 - 6:34 pm Reply

    It’s for me to know, and you to find out!

  • mary z. January 17, 2013 - 7:28 pm Reply

    If you don’t know who you are, you don’t know when to draw lines and when to step over them.

  • ScottieforLife January 17, 2013 - 7:30 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to really know who you are, in order to elicit self – change. If we don’t consciously continue to grow, we are not truly living out our full potential.

    Quick side – bar: Great blog! I’m in college and love the daily dose of humor I get from your blog! Keep up the good work!

  • mellissa3m January 17, 2013 - 7:51 pm Reply

    It’s important for me to know what type of person I am so that I realize how different my husband and I really are. Since I have learned more about his personalilty type I understand him so much better!

  • Amanda Levesque January 17, 2013 - 7:57 pm Reply

    I’m really trying to take this one as I love these things. I keep clicking on female and then…nothing happens. I tried Firefox instead of Chrome, same thing. Um…advice?

    • Amanda Levesque January 17, 2013 - 8:06 pm Reply

      Oh geez, it’s because of my screen settings. Derp. If any of you have trouble, scroll over to the right and there will be a next button.

  • atlantagalknows January 17, 2013 - 8:07 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to know yourself because then you’re able to more easily make decisions, whether it’s about what to do on the weekend, what to order at dinner, or what kind of person to spend your time with. Otherwise, you’re likely to spend a lot of time and effort and energy on things that don’t bring joy to your life.

  • Renée Becker January 17, 2013 - 8:40 pm Reply

    I believe that it is incredibly important to know who you are because if you don’t, you’ll be looking to other things to define who you are. I feel that this is incredibly destructive to a person’s wellbeing. I teach middle schoolers, and most of the time, they’re trying to define themselves by who they hang out with, what they wear, what music they listen to, etc. And they’re not happy! (Of course, who was in middle school?) But it is precisely this mindset that these students will (hopefully) grow out of as they move onto high school, college, post-college, whatever. (Oh Lordy, I pray that these kids make it out of high school…) But seeing how unhappy middle schoolers are, I see how unhappy some adults are that never grew out of that mindset.

    And of course, if you don’t know yourself, you can’t really love yourself. And in the immortal words of RuPaul, if you don’t love yourself, how the hell are you going to love somebody else?

  • Kerry January 17, 2013 - 8:58 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to know who you are because it helps me
    understand why I do the things I do and make the choices I make in life.

  • Candie Cueva January 17, 2013 - 9:15 pm Reply

    I think it’s just good to know who your are because then when someone asks you who you are you can tell them if I were a dog i’d be a spaniel! yeah you may scare them a little but it’s better than saying nobody unless you’re name is nobody because then if it is my their next question would probably be why do your parents hate you? well that’s why i think it’s important to know who you are

  • Brandy January 17, 2013 - 9:18 pm Reply

    You have to know who you are to be able to make choices that work best for yourself in life.

  • mrsjeanab January 17, 2013 - 10:35 pm Reply

    I got 60% caregiver and 4% intellectual…. so apparently, I am the dumb person who takes care of people. Which makes sense, since I just had to google “intellectual” because I thought I was spelling it wrong (and I was…)

  • merinda January 17, 2013 - 10:44 pm Reply

    29% creative 28% caregiver. Not surprised. It’s important to know who you are so you can be the person you are meant to be.

  • Caroline Burkhart Askew January 17, 2013 - 11:05 pm Reply

    I don’t think it’s as important to know who you are as it is to know how far you’re willing to waver from that postion.

  • Lee January 17, 2013 - 11:18 pm Reply

    It’s important to really know who you are so you consciously make the right choices that affect your life and those around you.

    hlee99 at gmail dot com

  • Sarah January 18, 2013 - 12:26 am Reply

    I love this stuff too and I’m an INTP, occasionally leaning toward INFP. When I was younger I was actually much more INFP, maybe even a bit INFJ. I’ve always remained constant as an intuitive introvert though. I’ve never taken the archetypes quiz before, but I’d definitely be interested in reading the book.

    What I think is a missing factor in any of these tools is that we can be very different people in different aspects of our lives. My role as a mother is entirely different than my role as a business professional. As a mother I’m extremely nurturing, definitely more extroverted, more emotionally tied to my decisions, and love to do musical and artistic activities with my son. As a business professional I’m very independent, introverted, and analytic. I love that my job involves so much math (yeah I’m kind of nerdy). I really am two different people depending on my surroundings.

  • Malyssa January 18, 2013 - 2:32 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are otherwise, what are you doing with your life? If you don’t know who you are, then I would be inclined to ask what you are doing in the first place. In my own logic that makes sense… I hope others understand.

  • Katherine Horejsi January 18, 2013 - 6:56 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so you don’t spend 15 minutes of your life answering another “find out who you are” survey. I’m guessing that the results won’t include 30% cynical bitch, 30% dreamer and 40% wise ass? Cos that’s how I came out on my survey!

  • Mary Happymommy January 18, 2013 - 9:54 am Reply

    I took the quiz and it said I’m 45% intellectual, 31% caregiver, 20% other, and 4% athlete. I think it’s important to know who you are so you know how to prioritize things in your life and how to get along well with others.

    mami2jcn at gmail dot com

  • Mary Happymommy January 18, 2013 - 9:55 am Reply

    tweet– https://twitter.com/mami2jcn/status/292283950133542913

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  • Tiffany January 18, 2013 - 10:30 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are, so you don’t accidentally become someone else by mistake! I mistakenly became a wife and mother and way deep down I’m a jet setting super model. See how the depression can ensue there? It’s tricky.

    • Tiffany January 18, 2013 - 10:36 am Reply

      I did feel like the test was a little silly. Had I realized one of the answers would be “queen” I would have deliberately picked all those, I’ll tell you that right now! As it turned out I’m only 16% queen. Very disappointing… :)

  • Dawn V January 18, 2013 - 11:01 am Reply

    By knowing who we are, we are able to adjust our expectations and reaction to others. If I know that I am perfectionist, then I can realize that my goals my not be suitable for everyone else.

  • Christine January 18, 2013 - 11:16 am Reply

    Uhhh, given the site this question came from, I’d say it is important to know who you are so you can ensure none of your dna is left at the scene of the crime…. Thank you Llama spit, I am starting my list of new Starbucks identities today. (Go figure, now that they finally know my name! May have to switch locations…)

  • Keli RetzlaFF January 18, 2013 - 11:29 am Reply

    So that if you’re missing, you’d know where to look for your self. : ) haha!

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  • Melissa Warburton January 18, 2013 - 11:46 am Reply

    I am a mom, so it’s important to me to know who I am because it helps me teach my children to find themselves. To choose their interests and grow as people in their community, help their community and discover what they have to offer themselves and others.

  • rachel January 18, 2013 - 11:57 am Reply

    My faith is tied to who I am, so knowing that helps me lead a richer life.

  • Kate George January 18, 2013 - 12:23 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so you don’t end up marrying the wrong guy, causing you both a lifetime of wanting to kill each other. Don’t ask me how I know this.

  • Sharon Powell Haertling January 18, 2013 - 1:00 pm Reply

    It is important to know who some asshat thinks you are so that you don’t accidentally become the wrong person and end up as, say, Quasi Modo. Again, totally by accident.

  • Kay Veezy January 18, 2013 - 1:25 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so that you don’t have to write you name on your clothes tags. And also so that you remember what you ordered or eat. My friends and I went to a Flat Top Grill once and we all wrote my brother’s name on the order sticks, so that when the food got delivered, every order was “Zack”. I think he had identity issues after that. I had to say, “Chill, dude. It’s just pork”.

  • libraryofbird January 18, 2013 - 1:29 pm Reply

    I read the #whoareyou as #whoreareyou I’m sure that says more about me then a personality test.

  • Samantha Daleo January 18, 2013 - 3:53 pm Reply

    I came out majority Caregiver which is pretty accurate…being a stay at home Mom and all. I think its important to know who you are so you don’t waste all of your time trying to be someone you’re not.

  • Chantel January 18, 2013 - 4:00 pm Reply

    It’s not really important for me to really know who I am. It’s the other people’s problem. You know, the ones who have to get along with me. And besides, I won’t be the same person tomorrow so then I’d have to start taking these quizzes everyday!

  • DaisyDesigner January 18, 2013 - 5:12 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to know who you are so that when someone shouts “Hey asshole!” you know whether or not they are talking to you.

  • stefpie January 18, 2013 - 6:37 pm Reply

    I really think it’s important to know who you are so that you can identify your gifts/strengths and use them to help others, and also your weaknesses so that you can seek to improve.

  • onefrugalgirl January 18, 2013 - 9:33 pm Reply

    Knowing who you are means others cannot step on you or treat you badly. When you know your self worth you won’t listen to the naysayers.

    — onefrugalgirl AT gmail DOT com

  • Gigi January 18, 2013 - 11:10 pm Reply

    If you don’t know who you are, you have no base upon which to decipher the rest of the world.

    Also, you can’t introduce yourself and that might make social situations a little awkward. 😉

  • Rebecca Shockley January 18, 2013 - 11:51 pm Reply

    I came out as a Rebel and that doesn’t surprise me one bit. It’s important to know who you are so when something comes up you can decide quick and not waste anytime. It’s also important because if you don’t know who you are, how can you follow your dream’s.

  • Courtney Bella January 19, 2013 - 10:33 am Reply

    you have to know who you are because if you dont you wont be able to see the potential in anyone else:)

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  • amy pugmire January 19, 2013 - 4:19 pm Reply

    so that you can grow and learn from yourself as well as others.

  • amy pugmire January 19, 2013 - 4:20 pm Reply
  • Janice Cooper January 19, 2013 - 8:47 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to know who you are to
    help you learn and understand yourself and help in areas to grow and be a
    better person

  • sy January 20, 2013 - 1:40 am Reply

    I need to know how to improve my self so understanding what type of person I am, my strength and weakness is important. It also helps me calm down when I’m upset.
    songyueyu at gmail

  • bellows22 January 20, 2013 - 2:47 am Reply

    i don’t think it would be possible to live your life to the fullest if you didn’t really know yourself!

    debbiebellows (at) gmail (dot) com

  • stephanie January 20, 2013 - 6:48 am Reply

    I came out as 52% “Caregiver,”

  • Daisy January 20, 2013 - 8:58 am Reply

    Having too many options is massively overwhelming to our little human brains. We are programmed to classify things and put things in order, even as they are falling apart, because we can’t fathom anything else. Hence, social stereotypes and the misery they cause. So we give ourselves labels. At the same time, everybody has the personal belief that they are different, and so everybody trying to escape labels and find something bigger and better.

    Shit, dude. I should have just said something like, “so you know what to put on your eharmony profile.”Sorry.

  • Katrina Peebles January 20, 2013 - 9:43 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so you can seek out opportunities to further your goals and work on your weaknesses.

  • cw January 20, 2013 - 11:38 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so you can be true to yourself and genuine to others

  • The Peace Patch January 20, 2013 - 5:32 pm Reply

    I’m not sure it’s important to really know who you are…I think it’s more important to keep exploring who you are. Keep asking questions, challenging yourself, testing your limits, discovering your hidden talents, strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, etc. Learning and changing and evolving are the keys to a vibrant life! I’d get bored if I thought I knew everything about myself. I guess I always want to have a little mystery left unsolved! 😉

  • Eddi January 20, 2013 - 10:08 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you are because when your your 5 year old daughter stands in outfield painting her toenails instead of watching the ball that lands right next to her or tells the neighbors to keep an eye on their damn dog from now on, you can fully acknowledge that she got it from you.

  • Crystal Puckett January 22, 2013 - 12:42 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so you can be certain you’re wearing the right underpants. And maybe some fluffy crap about growing as a person, feelings, and whatnot.

  • Cynthia January 22, 2013 - 12:49 am Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so that you don’t have a hallucination about your father, who is a lion, appearing in the sky with creepy glowing eyes to bellow, “REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE” in a commanding voice and fix you with a glare dripping in wholly disappointment for having such an identity crisis..

  • Jennifer Keefer January 22, 2013 - 3:35 am Reply

    I think it’s important to know who you are so you can help others understand you better. I came out being the creative type.

  • Jeanne Marie January 22, 2013 - 2:01 pm Reply

    It’s very important… unless you don’t mind wearing anonymous underwear at summer camp..

  • JessieC January 22, 2013 - 2:53 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so you can get along with and
    love people in your life.
    tcarolinep at gmail dot com

  • Amie Christy January 22, 2013 - 3:07 pm Reply

    Its important to know, through these tests, so when you do or say something completely off the wall, you can tell people its okay, Blah Blah test said that’s just who I am and you have to except me for me. Its not my fault, blame the test.

  • Aunt KayKay’s January 22, 2013 - 3:45 pm Reply

    Once you know you’re awesome then everyone knows, and everyone should know.

  • Rust January 22, 2013 - 7:39 pm Reply

    The better I know myself the better equipped I am to handle life’s ups and downs.

  • Amanda Haynes January 22, 2013 - 9:20 pm Reply

    That’s so cool you know about the enneagram, what number are you? I’m guessing a 6? I’m a 2w3 and ENFJ. I LOVE knowing other personalities because it helps me interact with people better, but it also explains why I am the way I am. If I was a dog, I’d be a golden retriever. If I was a cookie, I’d be chocolate chip. June Cleaver, Snow White, Mother Teresa….yada yada yada…

  • Tammy E January 22, 2013 - 10:47 pm Reply

    Well shit. After reading the comments all I know about myself now is that I’m not as funny as I thought I was. Dammit. NOW WHAT?

  • Janet Bolenbaugh January 23, 2013 - 10:23 am Reply

    No idea why I would want to know who I am. None whatsoever. Sorry, I got nothin. Obviously I need the book to help me figure it out!

  • chambanachik January 23, 2013 - 1:54 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to understand who I am so I can learn how to become better- a better mother, family member, friend, etc.

    chambanachik at gmail dot com

  • Cam_i_am January 23, 2013 - 3:02 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you really are so you your mom doesn’t have to keep sewing your name into your underwear when you’re 35 years old, especially if you finally manage to get a date to your place and they realize you’ve been using a fake name…that can get awkward

  • Casey Williams January 23, 2013 - 3:06 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you are so you can tell if you’re a dipshit. What you do with that information is up to you.

  • tina m January 23, 2013 - 3:53 pm Reply

    You will know what you want for your life and be a better person

  • uTry.it January 24, 2013 - 3:50 am Reply

    I think it’s important to
    know who I am because so others around me can know me better. By the way, the quiz was pretty fun.

    Amy [at] utry [dot] it

  • sandra January 24, 2013 - 8:01 am Reply

    helps give you confidence

  • Maureen January 25, 2013 - 1:33 pm Reply

    It is important to know who I am because then I can enjoy life more. I will know where I want to go and what I want to do with a bit more ease. I will be a better me and a better wife , daughter , sister and friend.

  • Jessica F January 26, 2013 - 12:38 am Reply

    It’s so important to know who you are because it defines how you work with others and how you approach what life brings to you!

  • Emily January 26, 2013 - 12:02 pm Reply

    Why do you think it’s important to really know who you are?

    Um, I don’t.

  • Kelly D January 27, 2013 - 10:21 pm Reply

    It’s important to know who you really are because then you will have direction in life, and find activities and company that you really enjoy.


  • hotrod’smama January 28, 2013 - 3:25 pm Reply

    It is most important to know who you are so you can groom minions to take up the slack in your personality, or lack thereof. Servile minions are most important.

  • ashbom January 28, 2013 - 8:06 pm Reply

    I’m an INFJ too! I made a career out of trying to figure out myself and others…. I’m (almost) a clinical psychologist.

  • Unsinkable Brown January 30, 2013 - 12:02 am Reply

    Important to know myself because it makes it easier to relate and communicate with others

  • [email protected] January 30, 2013 - 5:02 pm Reply

    It is important to know who you are, so you can stop blaming your parents. I am an INFJ married to an INTJ.

  • Mary Weise January 31, 2013 - 3:31 am Reply

    It’s really helpful when you’re trying to explain your insane tendencies to other people. “I’m neurotic because… Myers-Briggs! It’s science!” Works every time.

  • Gargoylz January 31, 2013 - 7:47 am Reply

    Ermegerd! Y is it important to know who ewe are? Sheep aren’t even sentient! Wait…did I misread the question!?!?!

  • Iwrite06 January 31, 2013 - 11:24 am Reply

    I’m a lifelong quiz-taker, too, and for me it’s always been about how to handle the crazy. I know I’m ridiculous, and my ENFJ personality leaves me feeling like a lunatic some days, so I keep taking quizzes like this in hopes that one day, one of them is going to have some brilliant ideas on how I can contain the crazy, and make my life, and the lives of those around me, much simpler!

  • Kate Belokopitsky January 31, 2013 - 12:51 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to know who you are so you don’t end up married to a douche that you can’t stand but would be perfect for some other poor soul. Thankfully, I managed to avoid those men!!

  • steph January 31, 2013 - 9:17 pm Reply

    because it helps to make decisions that are right for you and prioritize for your life!

  • Bethany A February 1, 2013 - 3:23 pm Reply

    I think this is a fun way to get to know yourself, very important for relationships and self improvement.

  • Susan Smith February 2, 2013 - 8:26 pm Reply

    I think it’s important to know who you are so you know how to prioritize things in your life and how to get along well with others and how to make choices in your life that you are happy with.

  • Susan Smith February 2, 2013 - 8:27 pm Reply
  • Grace Moylan February 2, 2013 - 8:46 pm Reply

    If you don’t know who you are, tough titty. Half the people on Earth don’t know who they are! What matters is that you are at least comfortable enough in your own skin to face the day, and take one step at a time. EVERYDAY. (all day, err’ day. Dun kurr, ain’ scuurred. Ahem.)

    As a side note: I also live in Raleigh (all hail open-minded North Carolinian’s!)

  • tara February 3, 2013 - 1:04 am Reply

    So others will like me.

  • Megan Bruch February 6, 2013 - 2:33 pm Reply

    Very deep. So instead of sarcastic (mostly who I really am), I will be deep as well. I think “who you really are” changes over time. You grow up. You get married. You have kids. You have dogs. Whatever. But all of that changes you. Keeping a constant pulse on “who you are” could be exhausting. BUT – that said – I also love personality quizzes, and I really do believe it’s helpful in relationships to know how you and the other person act/react.

  • Abby February 6, 2013 - 3:10 pm Reply

    Its important to know who you are because otherwise you might turn into someone else

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  • willitara February 9, 2013 - 3:36 pm Reply

    It’s important for me to know who I am so I understand why I did the stupid things I did. And just maybe I could avoid repeating the same stupid stuff over and over.
    willitara [at] gmail [dot] com

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  • maria cantu February 10, 2013 - 4:58 pm Reply

    so you know what you are capable of doing
    MCantu1019 at aol dot com

  • Courtney February 11, 2013 - 12:49 pm Reply

    I loved taking all the quizzes in Cosmo, but obviously I gave them the answers I WISHED matched me, so that I could get the best result.

  • Kelly Massman February 12, 2013 - 8:20 pm Reply

    I think it is important to know yourself so you can make better decisions in your life. Thanks so much for sharing and for a chance to win!!!! kmassman gmail

  • Amanda Sakovitz February 12, 2013 - 9:30 pm Reply

    It is important to know who you are so you can feel confident in your beliefs and lead a happier life

    pokergrl8 at gmail.com

  • Amanda Sakovitz February 12, 2013 - 9:31 pm Reply
  • Thomas Murphy February 12, 2013 - 11:19 pm Reply

    Its important to know who you really are because gives you a sense of self and it makes any type of decision easier to make.
    rounder9834 @yahoo.com

  • sandra February 22, 2013 - 9:19 am Reply

    36% intellectual, 34% caregiver, 10% spiritual

  • jennifer horn March 5, 2013 - 3:24 pm Reply

    It’s important so that you can be truly happy in life.

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  • anash March 14, 2013 - 11:19 pm Reply

    Its important because then you are unshakable! Thanks for a super giveaway!

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